[Interview] Sex Week: Belladonna - Life, Love and Sex (Pt 2)
TWV: In your opinion, why aren’t there more women calling shots in the industry?
Bella: That all depends on the person. Everyone has that option. Everyone has that choice. If they aren’t doing it it’s because they don’t know how, don’t really want to, or don’t want the responsibility. In the end if they’re not calling the shots it’s because it’s their choice. Look at Joanna Angel; she calls all the shots. She writes all the scripts for her movies – she does not quit. She’s calling all the shots. People assume a lot of girls don’t call shots for some other reason – but really it’s just their choice.
TWV: Tell me about the moment you found out you were going to be a mother. What was going through your head?
Bella: I was extremely excited. I was really excited. I remember when I went in to get the pregnancy test…I was just…happy.
TWV: Your daughter has already (technically) been in your films as you continued shooting scenes while pregnant. Can you talk a bit about that decision?
Bella: Yeah, I felt comfortable having sex with other women during my pregnancy – I think it was only seven scenes. I was extremely horny during that time – and I felt beautiful. It was really enjoyable. If I could stay looking like that and not be pregnant I would. I love beautiful swollen pregnant bodies; it’s just beautiful. But I only wanted my husband to have me at that time so I only worked with women, no men. There was something special about only letting my husband have me at that time.
TWV: Sexuality, and I think in particular the sexuality of young girls, is a very fragile thing. We form opinions and viewpoints from so many different influences – our parents, TV, our friends, religion, our experiences…what is it that you set out to teach your daughter about her own sexuality?
Bella: I go through moments where I question if what I’m doing will affect my daughter in a negative way – and that’s my biggest concern. But what I have to remind myself of is that it’s all about perspective. If you look from a positive perspective what I’m doing is actually quite powerful. I believe sex is a great thing, and yes you need to protect yourself, and be safe; but I want her to understand it’s a special thing you get to chose who to share with. And if you’re safe then sex can be a lot of fun; and that’s what it’s there for. I want her to feel totally comfortable in her body.
I don’t want my daughter to feel that when she’s exploring her body for the first time that it’s a bad thing. Because this is her body. It was meant to be enjoyed. It was meant for her to share it with whoever she feels comfortable with – not who I want her to share it with. I would think that by raising her with that mindset she’ll grow up to understand that’s what I was doing. That I chose to do that. I enjoy sex.